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145 August 16th, 2012 Crystal Chappell Posts Blog After Communicating with Melissa Reeves on Chick-fil-A Twitter Controversy!

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Venice, The Grove, and The Bold and the Beautiful’s, Crystal Chappell has posted in her latest V-Blog today about the Chick-fil-A controversy and the infamous tweet made by her former Days of our Lives co-star Melissa Reeves (Jennifer).

Chappell wanted to point out (through her post to fans and the LGBT community) that Reeves is not a bigot or a bully, and that her intent on the tweet (that has gotten the actress in a heap of trouble) was supporting freedom of speech, and not knowing about the motives behind Chick-fil-A supporting Anti-Gay hate groups. Chappell did communicate with Reeves to get some clarification.  Here is an excerpt of what Crystal posted this morning:

Crystal Chappell: “I reached out to our gay and married friends. Missy had called them in tears soon after the shit hit the fan. She told them how much she loved them and that the implication of that tweet was not what she intended. She said she saw half a tweet about Cluck Filet and thought she was supporting Free Speech. Nothing more. I thought…OK. Um….twitter fuck up? I’ve stepped into twitter convoys without really knowing what was being talked about and made a mess for myself unintentionally. Realizing after I stepped into it that I don’t at all support the person’s words I stood up for. OK….it happens. And then I asked our gay and married friends…well, why not just say that to the folks in twitter land? Was someone telling her not to? Is it work related? Ostrich in the sand syndrome? If I don’t see it, it doesn’t exist kind of thing? Blonde moment? The more time went by the more frustrated I and my friends became. It started to hurt. We all know Missy has very strong religious beliefs but the person we know and love….is NOT a bigot.

I reached out to Missy and she responded several days later. She’s decided to not speak out and hope that the people who know her will trust that she didn’t intend to support an anti-gay corporation. I firmly believe she should speak…not only for the fans but for her friends. I read Greg Riikart’s article in the Huffington Post. I thought it was eloquent and spot on…with the exception of calling Melissa Reeves a bully. Although, I understand where it came from. Sometimes being too quiet after creating a shit storm can make you look more guilty. So, Ill pray that she speaks so you can know that person who has a genuine love for all people regardless of race, gender or sexual orientation.”

So what do you think about Crystal’s comments and her comunication with Melissa Reeves?  Do you think Melissa should speak to clear the air?  Or, do you think its best to let things slowly burn itself out?  Weigh-in!

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  1. Sparky says:

    Well…I loved this post. Sometimes things are not as black and white as they seem. I do agree, Melissa should clarify.

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    TT replied

    I think MISSY REEVES ADULTERESS IS BACK PEDALLING NOW AND SHOULD DO DO SO ALL THE WAY BACK TO NASHVILLE!

    Too bad Crystal Chappell needed to throw a hat in the ring for Reeves, she dug her own hole, and the fact SHE is not actively responding shows exactly where she stands.

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    sara replied

    wow… judge much?

    MikeT replied

    Amen–Reeves knew full well what she was supporting and now she’s backtracking after the fallout.I will NEVER watch any program with her in it or purchase any products she endorses.I’m sick of the hatred toward gay people,all they want is equal rights.

    Patrick replied

    This doesn’t bode well for one’s character. issues, that intentionally divide the people.. because groups created apart from the constitution, decide propaganda, to steer from my truth… is not conquering.

    maddiehayes replied

    You don’t know anything about Missy Reeves. How do you know she doesn’t have a friend who owns a Chick-Fil-a and she was simply supporting her friend’s livelihood? Missy does not need to clarify herself, because no matter what she says, SOMEBODY is going to take offense. If she aligns herself with the LGBT, her CHRISTIAN fans will be mad. Don’t you get it? She never should have made that tweet, but now that it’s done, there is nothing she can say that will please EVERYBODY. Stop expecting everybody to have the same opinion on everything.

    MattsPlace replied

    Oh, Maddie, stop inventing things like imaginary friends who own Chick-fil-as! Thing is, she didn’t have to align herself with ANYONE. She could have kept quiet. No one would have known.

    Paul replied

    She made the comment. She is a public figure and accountable for her words and the fallout. All the “judging” “judge much” comments that get thrown around when people voice their opinions confuses me. Where was this stupid womans good judgement when she tweeted to her fanbase? She knew exactly what she was doing, come on. Its called collaboration. She put supported Chick-Fil-A and their hateful values by using her celebrity. People did that during WWII too, and they have been tried as Nazi-Collaborators or contributors. Different era. Different celebrity. Same hate.

  2. Jim says:

    I’m beginning to think that the definition that some people use for the word “tolerance” is that means we have to agree with their point of view, otherwise you’re called all sorts of names to shame you into accepting the point of view, or at least into silence.

    If we look at the actual definition it is “the ability or willingness to tolerate something, in particular the existence of opinions or behavior that one does not necessarily agree with.”

    So, folks, how about starting to be tolerant of people like Missy Reeves instead of bullying them into silence?

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    Robbyrob replied

    Bullying them into silence?????? She sent the tweet out and was quite proud…remember the ;? Why can’t we respond in kind? She’d rather shut down her twitter account then be on the record about this? She then throws more bible quotes at us. Sorry, but your argument falls flat.

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    MikeT replied

    I agree with you Robbyrob !!

    Jim replied

    Why should Missy have to defend herself at all? They’re her beliefs, you don’t agree with them, and she doesn’t have to answer to anyone for them.

    I am a gay Christian man, and I am honestly repulsed by the ugliness and the vitriol of the gay community because someone says that they don’t believe what they believe. What is really sad is that the gay community is letting this issue define them. The self-righteous ugliness that is being spewed is only polarizing people more. I would be more outraged about gay brothers and sisters in other countries being slaughtered by those who engage in “a religion of peace” and demand our nation’s leaders to cut off funding to any nation who engages in it. But hey, Christians are easy targets and they are parodied endlessly on TV shows, including the soaps, because it’s the cool thing in the media. It’s really sickening. Why aren’t the same angry people picketing mosques?

    Patrick replied

    If we look at the actual definition it is “the ability or willingness to tolerate something, in particular the existence of opinions or behavior that one does not necessarily agree with…. TOLERANCE.

    The Ability or Willingness. which tells me… we know what is good, in our hearts.. we are born this way…. and propaganda… testing one’s faith… is willingness to evil.

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    MattsPlace replied

    @Jim, you’re pointing fingers and lumping ALL gay people together. As a gay person this is the LAST thing you should be doing — and as a Christian you should know that the words and actions of one are NOT the words and actions of ALL. Do you not know you are doing what you accuse others of? Are you more Christian than gay? I wonder why you can’t balance the two? Worst of all, do you not know that people posting here have repeatedly expressed concern about gays being killed in other countries. We CANNOT protest in foreign countries, but we should not have to be condemned in our OWN country — the place of our birth. To my knowledge, no Muslim mosques in the US are openly going after gays. BTW your post was all over the place, and I tried to answer to the best of my ability given that.

    maddiehayes replied

    Bravo! Some people need to look in the mirror.

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    MattsPlace replied

    Maddie, you FIRST!

    maddiehayes replied

    nothing harder, Jim, than being a gay Christian, lol, of course, I know where your FIRST loyalty lies, and that is to Christ and your fellow believers. I know somebody like you (it might even BE you! lol), and he supported Chick-fil-A. If this boycott succeeded, “they” would start coming after every other Christian, this is nothing less than religious persecution (especially once the Mayors of major cities started throwing their weight around). We have to stand up to the “bullies”. I believe that is what Melissa was trying to do, as well.

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    Jim replied

    No, Maddy, my loyalty first lies in calling stuff out for what it is. There’s enough hypocrisy on both sides of this controversy and there’s more than enough narrow minded bigotry and hate to go around. The fact is that the media has been persecuting Christians for years in TV and in film. It’s “chic” to do that. They are portrayed as bigoted, ignorant and clueless. Where’s the same treatment of Muslims? Where’s the gay outrage for a religion that believes that gay men should actually be killed. Where’s the outrage directed at the Council of Islamic Relations? Where’s the call for repudiation of the Muslim Brotherhood? When Christians say stupid things, I call them out on it. When Republicans do stupid things, I call them out on it. I stand with Missy Reeves not as a Christian, but as a person who has the right in this country to say what she wants to say, free of people making her a target for ugliness and vitriol. I respect the rule of law, and if that means that marriage is defined as between a man and a wife, than I respect that. If the laws change, then I will respect that as a citizen of this country. I refuse to accept any group who would work to stifle free speech in this country because that means we’re moving toward communism. We have the freedom of speech in this country, but that does not give us the right to smear, berate or hate anyone into silence because they take a view that is not what I want to hear.

    Patrick replied

    @Jim:

    your words: Beautiful. All parties accepted.

    I refuse to accept any group who would work to stifle free speech in this country because that means we’re moving toward communism. We have the freedom of speech in this country, but that does not give us the right to smear, berate or hate anyone into silence because they take a view that is not what I want to hear.

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    metejt replied

    Gosh Jim I’m so happy to finally hear someone who has something sensible to say on this topic. I wholeheartedly agree with you. Everyone wants “tolerance” toward them but aren’t willing to extend it to others who disagree with them. This attitude is pervasive across almost all topics, races, creeds throughout this country. What’s happening to us? Missy’s opinions are just that, her opinions. The attacks, name calling and publicity that ensued are ridiculous IMO. Thanks for standing up and speaking your mind.

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    Patrick replied

    Everyone wants “tolerance” toward them but aren’t willing to extend it to others who disagree with them.

    i liken this to give and take. A meeting of the minds… affords us so much more together, than apart.

    Patrick replied

    per·va·sive/pərˈvāsiv/Adjective: (esp. of an unwelcome influence or physical effect) Spreading widely throughout an area or a group of people.

    This attitude is pervasive across almost all topics, races, creeds throughout this country

    and this is because of groups funded by … and/or religion. Individuals, and persons are thinking for themselves. CELEBRATE BIPARTISAN.

  3. Sal Piscioneri says:

    too late.

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  4. Brian says:

    I hope that America soon becomes “ok” with gay marriage. It became legal in July of 2005 here in Canada, and our country has not suffered because of it. In fact, it has made our country more united. I hope that America can soon find the same acceptance.

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    Patrick replied

    Cheers.
    Amen.
    All for one… and one for all.

    Unite.

    The difference, isn’t compromised.

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  5. bebr13 says:

    I think this kind of dialogue between people is exactly the kind of good that comes out of the negative, so I’m quite happy. I knew that Scott Reeves, Melissa Reeves, Steve Burton, and his wife, and a handful of other soap stars are (or at least were) conservative Christians. Some, like Burton and Austin Peck started out being really vocal about it and have since focused on the work and, in my opinion, lightened up, and others have been fired for pushing their beliefs on anyone who would listen on set or in the press (I remember it happening to an actor on ATWT, and there were rumors that it happened to Peck on DAYS), and still others like the Reeveses occasionally mention it, but haven’t made it central to their professional identity in years. I say that because that’s all we have a right to, in my opinion, their professional identity.

    Tweets are an interesting hybrid for me. I actually enjoy the peek into the actors lives a bit, and recognize that they are more expressing themselves and less trying to get me to think or feel anything (which is not their right or their business–and is my only problem with evangelical Christians who constantly tell me that despite the fact that I go to mass every week, sometimes more, and pray every day, the fact that I am pro-gay and Catholic makes me destined for hell. It pisses. me. off.) Thus when I know that Nancy Grahn is a liberal and suspect Laura Wright is conservative (from some of the links she shares and/or books she praises), it’s a welcome peek into seeing them as real people. Remember, Twitter is completely OPT IN (you choose to follow them because you want to know what they think–you have no guarantee you will like or agree with everything they think) and like life, we are enriched by people who have different beliefs and feelings than us. Some of my best friends are different than I am and I learn by not resisting but instead listening to how they got to their beliefs–and sometimes I even alter my own based on what I’ve learned and vice-versa. And all of my truly BEST friends are like that–you can’t put them in one political or ideolgoical box because they think for themselves. Just when you think you can predict what they will think on X, they surprise you with Y.

    So this dialogue is good. And the understanding that you aren’t a bigot for disagreeing. And most importantly the reminder that a lot of us jump into these public fights without knowing all the facts–just as Missy Reeves apparently did. She, like a lot of my conservative friends, thought the Chick-Fil-A thing was about free speech. Many of Chick-Fil-A’s supporters and political backers made it out to be that way. Many of my own conservative friends had NO idea that it had very little to do with one man’s opinion and right to say it in public and EVERYTHING to do with the fact that Chick-Fil-A donates a portion of all their proceeds to their foundation which then disburses that money to causes that include anti-gay ones actively working to restrict or roll-back gay rights and anti-discrimination protections. I would shop at ANY store owned by someone I disagreed with politically if the quality was good. What he does with his speech and the money/salary/profit HE makes is his business. When the store itself starts using store money and raw profit (proceeds from sales) to back causes I disagree with, I will stop shopping there. It’s what the BUSINESS does with my money that I voluntarily spend there that matters, not what the owners believe and/or shout from the rooftops. That’s their business and it is their right.

    It sounds like once Chappell shared with Reeves that it was about more than free speech and showed her the connection/money trail, Reeves was horrified too. Trust me, ANYONE who only listened to one source of informatoin, be it a fired-up pastor, or angry political commentator on FOX, a gay-rights activist, and didn’t research the full issue themselves (willing to look at info and arguments from both siides) could have fallen into the trap of the mindless drone that Reeves did. She heard Chick-Fil-A was under fire for speaking out against something that upset liberals and gays and she tweeted her support. Not realizing it had very little to do with “speaking out.” Now that she knows, she feels horrible. But so should those who rushed to call her a bigot.

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    Matt replied

    So you think MR is a “mindless drone”? Yikes. That sounds almost as bad as calling her a “bigot”. Oh well, I won’t argue with you on that, but mindless or not, MR should have spoken for HERSELF. She believes in Free Speech, after all.

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    bebr13 replied

    No, I don’t think that AT ALL. I was trying to say that when we jump when we hear these calls to action from commentators on TV, or activist groups or whatever (whether liberal or conservative) so many of us rush to sign petitions, or tweet out our feelings, comments on boards, or tell all of our friends on Facebook or at church or our neighbors about this horrible thing we’ve just heard that is happening. We’ve ALL done it–gone into what I call “mindless drone” mode–when we emotionally react to facts we’ve been given, without checking to see if it’s the whole story. Every time a political ad comes out (the new almost completely false “Obama cut work for welfare” ad springs to mind; but to flip it around, the misleading “Mitt says he likes to fire people” false ads also count; it’s not a partisan thing, it’s a people thing), people suddenly pass it around without checking to see if they are being given only part of the story. That’s all I mean. We have all ended up looking stupid when we pass on/act on information we’ve heard only to find out later it’s not *exactly* true, and there have been many more times we pass on or act on things and never learn it was based on half info. I call that mindless drone mode because that’s exactly what the people stirring stuff up — on both the extreme conservative side who tried to recast this as a free speech issue and the extreme liberal side which tried to make everyone from Chick-fil-A seem like hateful bigots — want you to do. They want people to hear about it and mindlessly (not think it through) pass it on. A celebrity has a bigger stage so the potential for blowback is higher. I don’t think Melissa Reeves (who, despite her earlier mistake–which no one should have to live through in public–has never seemed like a Christian hypocrite and instead has always seemed like a wonderful family woman with her head on straight and a kind, beautiful heart) meant to act mindlessly (without thinking), but she did and the blowback has been outrageous. No one comes out looking good in this. And my whole point is that she’s not a bigot, she’s a person, and a good one apparently. I’m sorry if my use of those two words was provocative and undermined my overall point.

    MikeT replied

    The whole chick-fil-a bull isn’t about free speech,it’s about gay people having equal rights to get married and have the same benefits as straight married couples do.The whole “free speech” thing is just a way to twist the facts.I wonder how many people would be supporting chick-fil-a if the owner came out in support of Jerry Sandusky or the guy that shot everyone in the movie theater in Colorado–that would be free speech too right?

    Ces replied

    Very well said!!
    We’ve all spoken before knowing all the facts about something and I believe that’s what Missy did but I don’t believe for a minute she was intentionally trying to hurt anyone or that she’s a bully. I’ve met her and Scott and they are both very lovely, down to earth people and had she known all the facts, she probably wouldn’t have posted her tweet quite so exuberantly.
    I honestly didn’t know what all the fuss was about with Chick-Fil-A until I started reading about it myself — honestly, I thought it was about free speech and being entitled to our own opinions, but after reading more, I see it was bigger than that.
    We shouldn’t as fans started calling her names, not like she’s Kirk Cameron who specifically went on National TV and showed everyone what a bigot he is.
    She should speak about it to her fans but seeing as how everyone has already made up their minds about her, would it really matter? probably not.

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    Patrick replied

    Crystal Chappelle… came to her aid… Lord knows… there are times… that i’d want that… from a total stranger… A RANDOM ACT OF KINDNESS… you don’t have to be alone in your thoughts. it all gets so jumbled… stir crazy… an anxiety that’s unneccessary. listening to your heart…. and not letting propoganda that’s MISleading the constitution that we ALL live by. IN ALL DUE RESPECT. helping each other clarify and expand your mind.

    CTwildheart replied

    Very well said. *applause*

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    Jim replied

    Mike T, it is about free speech, just as much as any person in this country giving money to a cause is also free speech. It is your right to free speech to not financially support Chik Fil A, or to make bogus innuendo associations to the owner of Chik Fil A to the shooter in Colorado or Jerry Sandusky to make your point.

    MattsPlace replied

    Oh Jim, the more you post the more you give yourself away. Your right wing views are disturbing — esp for a person who says he is gay. It was NEVER about Free Speech, Huckabee suggested that the conservatives use this to shield themselves. No one has denied Cathy, CFA or their “followers” the right to speak freely. Cathy funnels monies through the CFA Foundation to groups like FRC that seek to deny gays/lesbians rights — and JIM, THAT INCLUDES YOU! (Sorry for the caps, but I wanted to get your full attention).

    metejt replied

    BEBR13 Again, another common sense, level headed response. There IS some sanity in all this. I fully agree, I don’t believe Missy Reeves was aware of the full implications of CFA’s actions. I don’t believe most of us did. Great insight.

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    Patrick replied

    implicationsplural of im·pli·ca·tion (Noun)Noun: 1.The conclusion that can be drawn from something, although it is not explicitly stated.
    2.A likely consequence of something: “political implications”.

    correct me if i’m reaching here…. what with regard to Greg Rikkart… The FRC/CFA actions… would like nothing more than to denounce him.

    making all people aware of the FULL IMPLICATIONS… of the shared traditional values moral justifications? I acknowledge GR’s intuition and Spirit. That’s shared insight.

    There IS some sanity on both sides of the spectrum.

  6. Sal Piscioneri says:

    Chick -fil -A had a wonderful strategy, look at all the business they got after the fact……..That was one of the best business tactics I have seen in years. He should be commended for all his efforts……..Other business’s may follow suite, we’ll have to see.

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    Patrick replied

    Strategy. open-ended. I do not commend his efforts to dehumanize our people.

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    Paul replied

    Thank goodness Hitler did not have a chicken farm.

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  7. Days fan says:

    Disaapointed in Crystal., covering for a friend. What both are saying does not add up if you look at Reeves’ later Twitter comments. Now that Jack is gone, I hope they write her out. The actress has a primadonna history and has not brought anything to any storyline of late. Hey, but what I am saying is just free speech, right Missy?

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    cr replied

    Really your judemental person, who does right to speak your opinion, but hoping she written the show, his straight childless.

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    Jim replied

    Days Fan, you have no valid argument so you’re engaging in character assassination. Stay classy.

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    Jenny K replied

    As classy as you? Attacking people and their opinion? Yeah, right.

  8. Robbyrob says:

    Melissa sent that tweet out so she can certainly clear the air…is she THAT upset?? I give credit to Chappell for digging deep and finding out some answers. I just seriously doubt Reeves didn’t know the full truth of what she was tweeting about. She was pretty direct with what she said….why can’t she issue a response? Even her husband Scott has been silent too…and he’s got out boss’ at GH. Days was enjoying great press in regards to the Will storyline and then this hit the fan. While I appreciate Crystal looking into this, I would have hoped Reeves herself would have spoken out.

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  9. cr says:

    Go crystal way to stand up for missy reeves and tell what missy real intention was. You are upstanding woman and actress. And unlike greg rikkart you handled like a mature. Adult and concern friend. Her speaking the truth from her heart and cause a rage piranha to come after her and her family.

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    toscanti replied

    It is Missy’s place to clear her name if she feels she has done something wrong, not CP. That would be the mature response. I think everyone on both sides are acting ridiculous because their own agendas and beliefs are not met by everyone else. Let individuals believe what the hell they want. Right or wrong they don’t answer to you or me or anyone for that matter. Everyone needs to be more tolerant even when disagreeing. It is OK to have differences in opinion.

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    Robbyrob replied

    Why can’t Melissa do that herself? She hides behind her always present bible quotes. Free speech goes both ways. Rikkart did a great job in presenting his views and was quite mature. What he doesn’t have a heart? Your in la la land.

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  10. Jenny K says:

    Well, I am not sure I can believe Melissa. I do not know her personally. So I can only try to understand from actions or lack thereof.

    I get that she may have been clueless as to what exactly she was supporting with that tweet. What I do not get is the blocking of people who tweeted her respectfully (yes, I am one of them). Furthermore, people who have supported and interviewed her a lot over the last decades have been blocked.

    That to me was very ostrich-like and ignorant. And taking that into account, I can believe that Melissa is a bigot, and a bully too.

    Speaking out now would be too little too late for me. I am afraid I would view it as damage control without real conviction.

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    bebr13 replied

    The key is that CC, who HAS known MR for years as a PERSON, not a celebrity, can make that judgement and is sharing that with us. While I’d like MR to stand up for herself and clarify, I think she’s genuinely shell shocked by what’s gone down. Not everyone has been trying to educate her. There have been crazies (who are either unhinged or just like stirring the pot, whether they care about gay rights or not) who have threatened her. She’s not a Twitter pro. I say let it rest for a bit and trust a woman, CC, who has no reason to be an apologist for DAYS or MR, and only wants us to know that the impression given is not one that is consistent with the person she knows.

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    MattsPlace replied

    MR shouldn’t need anyone to apologize for her.

    Jenny K replied

    True. I have read some nasty tweets towards her and her family. But all in all, most tweets I have seen were respectful. Of course some trolls used the storm to stir up trouble but that could have happened after a post about the shining sun.

    And I think MR is in the business long enough to know there’d be a reaction. Good or not.

    Matt is right. If she felt an apology was needed she should have had the balls and done it herself. (Afterall she may have missed people when she called her friends)

    Jim replied

    Jenny, Melissa does not have to answer to you or anyone, nor should anyone expect the same with you. She is not a bigot or a bully because she does not believe the same way that you do, or say the things you think she should say, or respond the way that you think you. You are not the queen of the universe, so quit acting like she owes you anything. She owes you zip.

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    Jenny K replied

    Bwahaha *adjusts crown*

    Back atcha. Get over yourself. I never expected her to react to *me*. Just react. And she chose silence. How is anyone supposed to believe (in) her when we only have her tweet and non-reaction afterwards. I agree with previous posters if she indeed felt that strongly she could have said something publically. Plus she is in the business long enough she could have known that a reaction would follow. Good or bad.

    MattsPlace replied

    Jenny, I totally agree.

  11. Matt says:

    Mis-Tweeting doesn’t exactly add up with actual tweet: “Chick-fil-A today!!!! Loved every bite of it;)!! Land of the free and home of the brave. Love that we all appreciate free speech, right?” But oh well, no use making this about Melissa Reeves (I would hate to see her play the victim) when it’s the ISSUES that matter. In the end, MR is just a small part and the real problem(s) is just so much bigger. I’m sick of hearing about MR’s tweet; the issues should get this much coverage! Maybe that would HELP to make a difference in a world/society where equality is often measured in $$$ and people don’t really matter as much as the bottom line.

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  12. MannyM716 says:

    Words and actions have consequences.I believe her twitter post was both cryptic and incendiary. If Melissa was comfortable voicing, what she believes was her support of freedom of speech, then Melissa should have the courage to speak on her own behalf in regards to her twitter post. Additionally, she should also explain why she chose to block followers, specifically those (i.e. Greg Rikaart amongst several) who respectfully questioned the meaning behind her tweet. Furthermore, since this fiasco she has also opted to privatize her twitter feed. This is not time for silence.

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    Jim replied

    Really, Manny? Are you part of the ranks of the easily offended? Twitter is a free service. Just like you, she has the right to block or privatize her account just like you, and she does not have to answer to you or anybody.

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    MattsPlace replied

    If she truly believes in Free Speech, then MR did the exact opposite by blocking posters who disagreed with her and then closing her account instead of doing the Christian thing and apologizing. She treated her fans horribly after the tweet; the tweet she posted to Candace Cameron (yes, Kirk’s sister) was almost unforgivable as it made light of what she had done. I cannot imagine anyone — esp a Christian — laughing about hurting people by saying she had lost a lot of fans and having a good laugh with Candace. Religion has been damaged and hijacked by politics, so maybe organized religion has gotten this far off track. Still, I have met a few good Christians, so I know they’re still a few out there.

  13. Anne says:

    I never for one minute thought Missy was supporting hate groups or an anti gay groups. I found her tweet completely harmless. However, I did find the tweets to her extreme bullying and disgusting. As to Mr Riikart’s blog I found it passive aggressive in it’s bullying. Who is Greg Riikart to expect Missy to respond to him? “I reached out” garbage. As to Miss Chappell, Missy DID follow up her original tweet when the hate came her way with an explanation that she was supporting free speech. But she was called a liar by twitter respondents and Mr Riikart himself suggested she was trying to cover her backside after the fact. WHY should she again explain herself and open herself up to more of the same from Mr Riikart and the bullies amongst the gay community? AND PLEASE DO NOT SUGGEST THEY DON’T EXIST. Missy’s twitter account is evidence it do. I do not know Missy in fact I’ve never met her, but I do follow her and know she finds it impossible to hate. She is always loving and positive in her tweets. I will continue to support Missy’s right to feel how she feels and not say another word in the same way I continue to support the gay community and their right to marry. But Mr Riikart and Ms Chappel need to STFU and leave it alone now.

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    deb replied

    Thank you. I love this post.

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    toscanti replied

    Who is being a bully now? and quite disrespectful.

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    Anne replied

    Really? I’m sure Missy Ms Chappell’s friend appreciates her dragging it up again…and I’d hardly call that being a bully. There were no death threats involved. Maybe you should check with people who are bullied and then comment.

    Patrick replied

    @Anne.

    Maybe you should check with people who are bullied and then comment.

    “bullied” comes in many forms and wrought emotion can potentally do more harm than good. it’s setting us all backward.

    God Bless us all.

    Robbyrob replied

    Nice Anne….STFU really adds to the conversation. How about Reeves being an obnoxious religious bully?

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    Anne replied

    It’s called frustration at dragging it up over and over. Missy has explained herself. She doesn’t need to be constantly going over it for her so called friend or some guy she doesn’t know. You obviously didn’t read all of her tweets. You obviously have no idea about her and have just jumped on the band wagon to bash and bully Missy. Nice one yourself.

    Jim replied

    Who’s doing the bullying Robby? If you don’t like what she has to say delete her tweet, unfollow her or turn the freaking channel. Bullying, intolerance and bigotry cuts both ways. If you want to hop onto the angry victim bandwagon, go right ahead, that’s your right, but people like you are turning this into an electronic witch hunt smacks of McCarthyism.

    Matt replied

    Missy should have reached out and responded BECAUSE she believes in Free Speech. If that is the case and she was just supporting free speech, why WOULDN’T she put her words where her Chick-fil-a chicken sandwich was and exercise her right to freedom of speech? Saying you believe in freedom of speech and then saying NOTHING is kind of “defeafening”.

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    Anne replied

    OMG SHE DID she explained it FREE SPEECH she tweeted it more than once. AND lets face it you guys have someone to beat up and pick on over this it wouldn’t matter what she said or did now no one would believe her. She would be condemned for using the gay community and the issues to get herself a name. She’s gone quietly it should be left alone.

    Patrick replied

    @Anne.

    AND lets face it you guys have someone to beat up and pick on over this it wouldn’t matter what she said or did now no one would believe her.

    That is so far from the truth…. when, issues, are publicized.. and we have this opportunity to voice our opinions… just as you share, and we all share, the platform to vocalize the debate… i will never believe that the gay community would ostracize, ANYONE.

    Patrick replied

    @Anne. Passive-aggessive bullying? is that why we have all these groups…under the guise of “shared traditional values”. badgering one’s will. I’m not in your face.. misleading you into anything more than equality.

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    Anne replied

    Do you deliberately misread and misinterpret everything you read ? I referred to Greg Riikarts’ blog ONLY as passive aggressive bullying not the real problem of hate groups and their nastiness. Seriously, Missy Reeves is not the problem…and picking on her because of a misguided tweet is not the answer. please don’t assume what I think about equality. I’m sure you wouldn’t even believe me if I told you.

    Patrick replied

    @Anne.

    please don’t assume what I think about equality. I’m sure you wouldn’t even believe me if I told you.

    who’s calling the kettle black…. etc… that is a passive-aggressive statement… as well.

    No one. has outright… said they don’t not understand… what these blogs are about. There’s no confusion here about right and wrong.

    I will happily share what I believe… and I respectfully do not discount or doubt your ideals.

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    MattsPlace replied

    @Anne, MR did NOT explain anything. CC had to come out and try to do it for her. Are you following the same story as everyone else? BTW she DID tweet Kirk Cameron’s sister after her original Free Speech tweet, saying I”ve lost a lot of fans and “laughing” about it. Guess she didn’t really care that much.

    Patrick replied

    I found her tweet completely harmless.
    1. Stuns me… that anyone would expect this. Her TWEET(s). To diminish or give so little regard to people.
    Who is Greg Riikart to expect Missy to respond to him? “I reached out” garbage.
    2. My ideals may not merit your wisdom… be that as it may… selective verbage…ie: pray for the sinner: being gay is a sin.

    she was called a liar by twitter respondents and Mr Riikart himself suggested she was trying to cover her backside after the fact

    3. operative word: suggested. implies leading to believe. Neither GR or MR… have made this personal.

    But Mr Riikart and Ms Chappel need to STFU and leave it alone now.
    4. STFU… and LEAVE IT ALONE NOW. ?????

    expletive….. leave well enough alone….. NOW?
    I don’t buy in to the bullying in to silence. Peace.

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    Posters – I am in no way… taking Anne’s post out of context… simply wanting to put out their… how strong words are. I’m not challenging or debating to make this personal. Please take the time to fully read her post above.

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  14. deb says:

    The only bully in this story is Greg R. Why does he feel the need to question a fellow actor on her support for a company? The folks who scream the loudest about tollerance are the most intollerant when it comes to Christians.

    Too bad Mellisa feels the need to backtrack now that her so called friends in the entertainment business decided she is a bad person for defending what she believe as a CHRISTIAN. She is not advocating homosexuals be beaten up and killed. Goodness let the woman be.

    If Greg R. is so pro gay why has he been hiding in the closet for so long? It is his business so let others have their business without his two cents. Hypocrite.

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    Matt replied

    You’re calling Greg a BULLY?! LOL You are so wrong to try to OUT anyone. This is an example of WHY people are SO outraged by MR’s stupid TWEET!!! Just wrong and shows what people are really like. That is just very, very SAD :(

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    AdG replied

    Actually, she is advocating for gays to be beaten up and killed. She is supporting a company that knowingly donated a portion of profits to an organization that lobbied for Uganda’s “kill the gays” bill to proceed without any US govt. agency interference. That company’s money goes to SPLC designated hate groups that are no different in their “tolerance” for LGBTs than the KKK is of people of color.

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    maddiehayes replied

    Please stop spreading that rubbish. That is patently untrue. FRC opposed one SENTENCE in the bill, the part that said “gay sex acts are a universally recognized human right”. It is half-truths and outright LIES like this that make your “side” look foolish.

    AdG replied

    Bullpucky. FRC did not want the resolution to pass. Period. Peter Spriggs has said as much on the radio. The way they went about stopping it was objecting to that sentence and lobbying the House of Reps. that are more friendly to having their ears bent for their dollars. The bill is now likely permanently stalled. Or how do you like these FRC directly quoted “half-truths”:
    From FRC pamphlet entitled “Homosexual Activists Work to Normalize Sex with Boys”: One of the primary goals of the homosexual rights movement is to abolish all age of consent laws and to eventually recognize pedophiles as the “prophets” of a new sexual order. ” A statement FRC head Tony Perkins has defended on TV as late as 2010.
    Or how about this from Spriggs: More recently, in March 2008, Sprigg, responding to a question about uniting gay partners during the immigration process, said: “I would much prefer to export homosexuals from the United States than to import them.” He later apologized, but then went on, last February, to tell MSNBC host Chris Matthews, “I think there would be a place for criminal sanctions on homosexual behavior.” “So we should outlaw gay behavior?” Matthews asked. “Yes,” Sprigg replied. At around the same time, Sprigg claimed that allowing gay people to serve openly in the military would lead to an increase in gay-on-straight sexual assaults.

    It amazes me how your “side” always wants to pretend like everything done and said is being mis-construed. FRC does nothing but forment hate & intolerance.

    maddiehayes replied

    AdG, I do not pretend to be as knowledgeable about the gay movement as you are. But I did support FRC in the ’80s, and there IS a group called NAMBLA (North American Man-Boy Love Association) that was accepted by the gay community and participated in gay-pride parades with them. This group is the group the FRC pamphlet was deriding, I’m pretty sure. Their mantra is “sex by 8 before it’s too late!” and some of their members were responsible for the deaths of children. LGBT has since denounced them, but they do exist.

    Robbyrob replied

    Deb,

    Does supporting the gay community mean your gay? You certainly gave your 2 cents here by commenting didn’t you? What you don’t understand is that the money given by this company helps finance laws aimed at stripping gays of basic rights. If you choose not to see this, then by all means continue shouting that everyone in this is a bully but your heroine Melissa herself. Christians always quote the bible in demeaning gays and not giving them basic rights. Love how you pray for us always. God loves us but not what we do in our own bedrooms…huh??? If your that into the bible, get ordained already. Leave me to live my life without YOUR beliefs.

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    Christine replied

    I am playing NICE here and just asking a question, :-) but I am interested as to why Greg Rikaart’s sexuality needs to be defined for the public? Isn’t it enough that maybe he believes so strongly in this topic that he is defending the gay community and possibly his gay friends? I could touch on your other points (which I agree with what you said, by the way), but I just want to know why one has to make public their sexuality when they are outspoken on a subject.

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    Matt replied

    Christine, you agree with her? I followed your posts before :( Tolerance benefits all people, everyone is tolerated at some point (even in their daily lives), but no one will or should tolerate any group (be it Christians or whomever) or business that seeks to actively harm them. You wouldn’t be tolerant of a group that targeted Christians or Blacks (at least, I hope not.) We would never have expected the Jews to tolerate Hitler, would we? It really is that simple (logically) and dire (consequentially).

    MattsPlace replied

    @ Christine, thanks for clarifying. See, if MR had done that how much better the outcome would have been? You ARE doing the Christian thing, and I DO appreciate that. I have no ill-will towards Christians, although I am a spiritualist myself.

    Matt replied

    JSUK: Coming out is a very personal decision and no one should be taunting anyone about coming out of the closet. Doing so is one of the complaints with bulling, in instances gay people were “forced” out and the results were devastating. Please try to understand what “tolerance” means, we all tolerate others UNLESS the person(s) or groups are doing something to harm us (Christians should not ask for tolerance for businesses funding hate groups or Christians who fund such groups, no one should tolerate the potential damage to another group of people, the end result of that would truly be tragic for all mankind as the past and Hitler’s regime echoes). I hope you understand that tolerance is NEVER an excuse.

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    Christine replied

    Matt what I agree with in deb’s post was that Melissa Reeves should just be left alone. As much as I love Greg Rikaart, maybe he should have not said anything. To me, it is just not so black and white. I see shades of gray.

    I think maybe he should have stopped at the Tweet that he sent to her, seeing he didn’t get a response and let it be. It’s also 2012 and our country has become more and more outspoken. Agree to disagree. However, I do NOT believe this thing with Melissa Reeves was all about “free speech” judging by everything she says includes a quote from the Bible and I do believe she had sinister motives in the Tweet that she sent. But enough already, “just leave the woman alone.” That I agree with.

    I hope that explains things better, Matt. Sometimes I don’t exactly get the right words to express what I am trying to say. I apologize if you interpreted it as such. I am just as sick of this as everyone else is. I guess some of my fellow Christians have forgotten that everyone should be treated equal.

    And I have read your posts, too, Matt. I agree with them. :-)

    Patrick replied

    it’s not like melissa Reeves is a sacrificial lamb… an open forum.. however, heated… is debate for humanity… civil rights given due process. I could argue, that tolerance, that’s been bandied about by americans alike… and that, the next step… for equal footing, to mass with.

    Tolerance… ie: if you will…. Gay Hysteria….
    For Extremists…. Gay Hysteria… we do not condone the acts by lone individuals who propagate less than equal.

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    Anne replied

    Hold on…while I agree Greg was bullish in his public attack on Missy I don’t agree it means he’s gay. Either way it’s his own business and that should never have been commented on. Many of my friends are gay and lesbian, some are coupled up and some aren’t, some want the right to marry and some don’t care. I support whatever makes them happy, it does not mean I’m gay. What is wrong is to send death threats to someone who may or may not agree with you.

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    MattsPlace replied

    Wow, Anne, I actually agree with your post 100%. Scary, isn’t it?! LOL I also think death threats are wrong. No one should have made death threats or any threats of any kind to MR.

  15. Matt says:

    BTW I hate that CC had to speak for MR when if it really mattered that much (to MR) she could have spoke for herself. Fans would have appreciated that. If you truly “mis-tweeted” why wouldn’t you just SAY SO? CC, please let MR and others fight their own battles, don’t damage your own standing for a person like MR who says she believes in Free Speech and then refuses to SPEAK when she “claims” she was misunderstood. What’s so hard to understand about Chick-fil-a giving money to groups that target gays when they could be giving that money to do something good, say, like feeding the hungry (you sell FOOD, after all!), helping the homeless … just doing GOOD.

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  16. shannon says:

    If Missy supports “freespeech” then she should speak up for herself unfortunately at this point it may be to little too late. She could at still say she is sorry that her tweet was miscontrued.

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  17. toscanti says:

    I can’t read anymore of this it is yesterday’s news and people need to move on. Each day individuals on this site become more and more inapropriate, rude and disrespectful. They all have expressed their opinions as they have the right too. Right side is always going to be right side as left will be left. The middle the middle, stop bickering already grow up and truely respect opinions even if different than yours. I’m done here. Thank you.

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  18. kathy jones says:

    I agree Greg is the bully. he was calling her names instead of
    Seeing her side and discussing her views. My best friend
    Is a nearly sixty year old gay man. We have these discussions
    And sometimes heartedly but we never call names and we always
    Still love each other. Hollywood needs to stop the nasty name
    Calling and discuss.

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  19. Casey says:

    given the fact that MR blocked almost everyone that tweeted her after her stupid “YEAH I ATE CHICkEN tweet” she deserves whatever comes her way, imo. CC writes a blog about it? Ok…but Melissa was way too silent and her hubby was way too “I’m proud of my wife”. To close her account while quoting god is so sad and so dramatic. She’s obviously oblivious.

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    Matt replied

    I could not agree more. She says she believes in free speech and that’s why she tweeted, but she blocked others who chose to speak freely? Does not compute. She should have spoken for herself.

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    David B replied

    I TOTALLY agree with both posts *Thumbs up* :) :)

  20. Jeff says:

    Enough of this good “Christian” garbage!!! You people are the biggest hypocrites going!

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    maddiehayes replied

    that’s rich, coming from the people who say they are against “hate speech” and yet their tweets are the most vile and vicious of all!

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  21. Anne says:

    and again the bullies come out.. SHE DID TWEET THAT SHE WAS SUPPORTING FREE SPEECH AFTER SHE WAS ATTACKED. She blocked because how many times does she need to exlain herself? Yet as I pointed out she is still called a liar…as evidenced above. She said posted her tweet and then clarified it when questioned. GIVE IT UP PEOPLE there is no more mileage for the movement to be had by bullying her anymore.

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    Matt replied

    BEFORE you call someone a BULLY please hold up a mirror! The reflection you see may SURPRISE YOU!!!

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    Anne replied

    when I send death threats or threaten physical harm to you and your family we’ll discuss bullying.

    MattsPlace replied

    Oh Anne, you assume I haven’t been threatened with death threats because of who I am? How wrong you are! I still say you have lumped ALL people in a group under the banner: Bully. That is not fair to any group, including Christians. Not ALL people in any group are bullies. No one in these posts has threatened her, so you’re attacking the wrong people with your tirades. You state above that we should “give it up” and stop bullying her. Apparently you’re the one who doesn’t know what bullying means.

    Matt replied

    Anne, I have followed this story, and Melissa DID tweet again after her original Chick-fil-a post, she tweeted Kirk Cameron’s sister Candace about how she had just lost a lot of fans and LAUGHING about it! The statement about Free Speech was in her original Chick-fil-a post, to my knowledge she has NOT explained anything since then, although, as I said, she did tweet Candace Cameron at her fan’s expense (laughing).

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    Anne replied

    she also tweeted and said she couldn’t understand what all the hate was, that she was just supporting free speech, can’t we all get along and love each other. She’s like a lot of celebrities who have made the mistake of not researching something. I’ll put my hand up and say I was dumb enough to do that at times. Doesn’t make her a biggot. I’m sure she’s upset and not a little frightened thanks to the threats.

    MattsPlace replied

    Anne, all she had to do was apologize. It amazes me that sometime doing the right thing is the HARDEST thing to do.

    Patrick replied

    Mileage for Shared traditional values? it’s like fighting for that last buffalo… lets use every part of the contstitution for the the betterment of ALL american citizens.

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    Patrick replied

    Hello Anne:

    ” GIVE IT UP PEOPLE there is no more mileage for the movement to be had by bullying her anymore.”

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    I respectfully decline… as that is my right to the 1st ammendment.

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  22. CTwildheart says:

    Glad Crystal is standing up for her friend…but Melissa’s silence does nothing to help her. I respect someone more for admitting their mistakes…

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    Matt replied

    That was ALL Melissa Reeves had to do. Why was it so hard for her? Who knows? She believes in Free Speech, yet she NOW refuses to speak. NO ONE should HAVE to SPEAK for HER! (I’m using caps to emphasize that she was in total control of this situation and chose NOT to use her right right to freedom of speech, the VERY thing she claims she was defending in her tweet.

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  23. bebr13 says:

    Also, I hate that this needs to come up every time we have these discussions, but the right to free speech in the country is very specific–and ONLY applies to the GOVERNMENT involving itself in citizen’s speech. It is perfectly legal and okay for people (including large portions of the public) to let a business, celebrity, person, newspaper know as loudly as they want (within harrassment and stalking laws, of course) that they don’t approve. They can organize boycotts, picket outside the store to inform people of the businesses position, and write strongly worded (and sometimes offensive) things about them on the Internet. When there was backlash against Dr. Laura’s offensive tirade, many said her firing was people restricting her free speech, and here neither Dan Cathy/Chick-Fil-A, nor Melissa Reeves had their free speech impinged in ANY way. I hate the kind of speech that is out there, especially on the Internet. And threats are too far–and I hope Missy Reeves is reporting each one to the police–but she can say what she wants and people can react in ANY way they want, and none of it has anything to do with free speech, which is a constitutional right that protects us ONLY from the Government supressing our speech. It’s important that we speak out against what is wrong with this but also that we don’t claim it is anything more than it actually is.

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  24. sara says:

    I’m not going to judge her but having seen her posts in the past, she has never said a hateful comment about anyone… and then she makes one comment – I fully believe without knowing exactly what Chickfila was doing – and gets slammed. She has already spoken/apologized to those that she cares for, that matter to her. Why should she respond to hateful comments attacking her, her family and her beliefs? Losers are bringing up her past and throwing that in her face and she owes THEM an apology? I can bet 99% of those attacking her have said or done way worse to others. They don’t deserve anything. Melissa Reeves knows what is in her own heart and God knows what’s in hers as well as EVERYONE ELSE.

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    Anne replied

    agree 100%

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    Patrick replied

    She has already spoken/apologized to those that she cares for, that matter to her.

    THAT MATTER TO HER? what is this… that i don’t matter? I don’t mean anything to her.. because, she doesn’t know me personally…?

    She’s not being villified… She’s being taken to task… for not standing up for her initial response… she mean’t what she shared… Press, for and against… is our right. She had plenty of time to avail herself… her freedom of speech… and she chooses to shut down.

    LOSERS. People who care about getting along… letting be… Freedom… Living in Harmony. That’s unjust and uncivilized. This issue is not tearing us apart… it’s bringing to the forefront…

    “We hold these Truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”

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    Jim replied

    Patrick, who are you or anyone else to take anyone to task? The world does not revolve around you and what you think. If you don’t like what she has to say, hit the delete button or turn the darn channel. Good effing grief.

    MattsPlace replied

    Jim, since you stated previously that you are a gay man and a Christian, I am so disappointed in the things you say. Your posts confuse me: The more you say, “the more you say”.

    Patrick replied

    @Jim.

    This is not personal. We all share this platform. “For and Against” our constitution… is our right. Ostracizing a person, because we can? It’s demeaning to the human spirit.

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  25. JustMyOpinion says:

    Cannot believe the dust up over this. For those that say this is about the CFA money trail and not the CEOs opinion, please get real. CFA has been donating to these orgs for years and why no comment about it before now? Is it still okay to be of the OPINION that marriage is the domain of a man and a woman? Or if you are of that opinion or even support someone’s right to state that OPINION, do you risk having vile and juvenile communications strewn your way? I support gay marriage. However the vile and hateful response to Missy’s tweet leaves me to wonder. Way to get that dialogue going and win folks to your side. Seeing an awful lot of MLK quotes lately. Did you know he was an adulterer too!!??? Chappell entering the frey to try and explain someone else’s behavior is not helpful. Let Missy speak for herself and if she chooses not to, that’s her choice.

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    maddiehayes replied

    that’s what I’ve been saying, gay groups have known for YEARS what kind of groups Chick-fil-A donates to, but NOW they decide to make a stink about it. Why? Because Dan Cathy said he is pro-traditional marriage to a CHRISTIAN group. Duh. I also think President Obama’s coming out in favor of gay marriage has emboldened the left to BULLY everybody else into thinking the way they do. I can’t speak for Missy, but it is when the mayors of major cities started banning Chick-fil-A that I decided to support Chick-fil-A day. The ACLU took Chick-fil-A’s side, as did major religious figures like the Cardinal and Billy Graham.

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  26. Matt says:

    Not buying this. She’s either playing some PR game which is a total FAIL because she could have explained this story days ago or she’s really that unthinking to post about an issue she has no understanding of. Either way, she looks bad.

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  27. Ces says:

    You know, we only know about Chick-Fil-A but how many other restaurants you eat at and stores you shop at that believe in the same thing? All those that are bashing Missy for one Twitter comment better be careful, because next week that favorite place you’ve been supporting might just turn up on the same list as Chick-Fil-A then what are you going to do?? She has the right to her own opinion and I strongly believe she meant no harm to anyone; just didn’t know all the facts. People keep saying she’s a religious bully, well guess what, there are plenty of groups — gays included that can bully just as much! Quit acting like saints.

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  28. Christy says:

    you know, I went to watch both “events” at the Chic-full of it near my house… it was obvious that there are people who know exactly what the guy said, even if he didn’t say it, pardon the pun, straight out. They seemed gleeful as they strolled out of the place yelling “yeah! freedom of speech!”

    it was equally as obvious, that there are a lot of really dumb, uneducated people out there that came to shout stupid stuff to the gay people (that came to protest where Chic-full of it donates money while still calling themselves good Christians.)

    Two examples of what I heard that day: a woman leaned out her car window and shouted “I came from 2 straight parents! Where the *!##! did you come from?” (what?! did you not study biology like the rest of your class?)

    second thing: a man obvious not to know a thing of what was really going on, walked up to the guys/gays and angrily said ” I just don’t understand why you’re out here trying to convert people.” I giggled, I thought he just had to be joking. Oh no. He was quite serious. He really thought the group was out there to convert people to “gayness”. I have to give points to the man who answered him, without laughing, that no, they were not out to convert people, they were actually protesting where Chic ful A donates money… of course being wrong about what was going on made the nut angrier and he stormed off sayig “that’s B#@! S#!@” over and over.

    maybe he thought he could convert…. and get the free toaster! ;-)

    the people who say they are in support of the guy’s freedom of speech would get very angry if some company’s exec would say they like white people better, or women should stay home with kids…..

    Freedom of Speech comes with a small disclaimer that a lot of people forget: use with caution, sensitivity and careful responsibility..

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    MattsPlace replied

    Wow! Great post. This is what people have been trying to say in so many posts, but you WERE there and you know what REALLY happened. It’s sad that people are so undeniably uneducated, but these same people often vote for denying rights to others — even though it often means voting against their own best interests as well. Very sad. It really comes down to people being able to care about their fellow human beings . . . as long as some people believe that denying rights to others somehow elevates their lot in life, we may never get beyond these kinds of debates.

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    Christy replied

    just so there’s no confuse-ment – when I said “while still calling themselves Christians” I do mean the Chic full of it, not the gay protesters. :-)

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    Christine replied

    You hit the nail on the head when you said there are a lot of “really dumb, uneducated” people out there. :-)

    What you witnessed sounds absolutely sickening. It sounds like an abortion rally or something in the south involving Confederate flags. I am grateful to have grown up in the North East and in the 70s (after the women’s movement) so I did not have to endure what my black friends have had to endure and, while heterosexual, I am glad of who I am for not having to go through what my homosexual friends are going through. The injustice is just wrong. I really hate how people use the Bible as an excuse for their HEINOUS actions. And the majority of these people think they are some great contribution to society when, in fact, they are usually the first ones to cut you off on the freeway (while proudly displaying their Jesus fish or whatever license plate) and to cheat on their spouses, taxes, steal from their friends and neighbors, you name it. Whatever happened to just trying to be a good HUMAN BEING? Do unto others? I guess THAT part of the Bible does not apply.

    I guess while I am at it I should say that (and it is probably no big surprise because of my name) I was raised Roman Catholic. I studied the Bible too. While this is not a debate about the Catholic faith, it is a Christian faith so I am saying it. I don’t agree with everything the church stands for. I can’t believe that you could just kill someone or sexually abuse them (basically sin or commit a crime) and say you are sorry and you go to Heaven. I can’t believe that is why we are on this Earth. To harm others in the name of the Lord because they do not conform to what we want them to be and then just say a few Hail Marys or whatever penance and we are absolved of all wrong doing.

    I wish I were more eloquent at getting my point across, but I am just so sick of everyone in the “land of the free” who have their rights wanting to trample their fellow human beings that want the same rights even though they have different beliefs. We are all flesh and blood and should be treated equal.

    maddiehayes replied

    I went to Chick-fil-A on August 1 and I did not see one protester anywhere. And everybody was pretty subdued, just quietly ordering chicken with their families, nobody was gleeful or mean-spirited at all.

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    Christy replied

    There were 2 days of “events” The first one, that was Aug. 1, was the reverse ‘protest’ where people in support of chic full of it came to buy food. I happened to be in the lane where all the traffic was backed up due to cars heading in – police had flashing lights on their cars – it was a traffic mess and of course it was just after 5pm when I got there. I wasn’t sure what to expect on that day, but their drive thru was overflowing and there was a throng of people lined up to go inside – and then come out and yell the ‘free speech’ stuff. Only saw one lesbian couple with a poorly made sign (no one could read it cuz they used a ball point pen instead of dark marker).

    Friday was the in support of gays / protest of where Chic donates money. And there was a relatively small group there – however it was nearly 112 degrees out!

    There are 16 Chic’s in my metro area. I only stopped by the one near my house, but we saw several larger gatherings at other Chic’s on TV at work. I was expecting a lot more people – but it was very hot here and I figured I saw pretty much a small sampling of what was going on across all their locations.

  29. Sedrick Gilbert says:

    Bull is what I think of Melissa Reeves “explanation”. She is NOT that naive. She knew full well what she was doing, hence the “wink” at the end of her tweet. I guess she didn’t realize what she was doing she she got involved in the rumored scandal backstage at DAYS all those years ago that resulted in her being forced off the show and banished to the hills of Tennessee for years. Wink on that!

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  30. SickTired says:

    Are you kidding me? Did Dan Cathy say that he hated gay people? Did he wish them harm? He expressed a viewpoint on marriage that is in complete alignment with his beliefs as a Christian. Whether we like it or not, many people believe the bible. Some may not agree with it, but there are people who live and breathe this.

    The politicians who have spoken out on this issue and have gotten their opportunist mugs in front of the camera and calling this hate speech and saying crazy things like ChickFilA is not welcome in their cities, blah blah. GTFOH!! He stated that he believes in the traditional definition of marriage. Calling this hate speech cheapens the definition and makes these politicians look like pandering fools.

    Twitter is akin to freakin middle school. This fake controversy proves the point. Folks who seek an apology, get over it! An apology for what?? For believing what she believes??? Why would you even want that?? I try to keep an open mind in all things. But, I cannot abide attacking someone who does not share my world view. Agree to disagree and move on.

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  31. allie says:

    Crystal a very good friend. The guy from Young and Restless is the real Bully. I will not watch because of him.
    He is hurting soaps.
    People who claim Melissa Reeves is a bully they are hipocrates because they are the bullies.
    The bullies are attack her husband band of great people.
    Melissa Its easy to stand with a crowd. It takes courage to stand alone.

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  32. Brad says:

    I wonder if Crystal feels let down after now seeing Melissa’s tweet.

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  33. cr says:

    We all need to stop and realize that world does not revolve around us and juding mreeves on her beliefs does not better you or me. I agreed with her many levels and i am christian.

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    MattsPlace replied

    You are “judging” MR, too, you know — but you are judging her to be someone who shares your beliefs.

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  34. Toni Anne Longo says:

    I believe Melissa is sincerely sorry, and we should forgive her and move on from here. I’m sure we all have made the same mistakes before. I know I have. :)

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    MattsPlace replied

    I do NOT advocate anyone making death threats to anyone. Anyone who did this to MR or anyone should be ashamed. While I feel CC’s blog was ill-advised, I know she was trying to make a bad situation less so for a friend, but she should have let MR speak for herself. MR should be entitled to her OWN beliefs and not worried about a Christian backlash (as someone indicated) if she explained that she truly did NOT do this for any other reason than Free Speech. MR can still apologize and, if she’s sincere, I for one WILL gladly accept her apology and move on as if this NEVER happened.

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  35. Jim says:

    One last word as a gay Christian man. If we got this worked up over child abuse and harnessed our collective outrage into action, our children would be a heck of a lot more safe. Honestly, the whole Missy Reeves thing is so inconsequential in the grand scheme of things. Quit spending so much time looking for reasons to be freaking offended. Did you know that there are over 20 million men who have been abused in our country in the worst possible way? Did you know that there is an incident of child abuse reported every ten seconds? Really, we need to concentrate on the things that matter, because if we don’t start looking at keeping our children safer to those who would do them harm, they won’t live to see the day they can get married, or they will be afraid to be married because they’re so screwed up from what happened to them.

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    MattsPlace replied

    Jim, you can be a Christian and STILL want gays/lesbians to have equal rights. As for child abuse, we can all be aware of it — and we should — but safety of kids usually hinges on parental concern. You can never do more for any kid than that kid’s parents can — if the parent is responsible parent. If we see abuse, we should report it, but being aware of it and being able to stop it are two different things. Denying rights to gay/lesbian kids can also be seen somewhat as abuse, if these kids are denied the rights of their peers, then they will be more likely to be abused by persons in society and society itself. Gay and lesbian kids are prone to depression because of feelings of hopelessness and many commit suicide, we should be concerned about ALL kids. And that, Jim, includes gay/lesbian kids as well.

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    Christy replied

    “you can be a Christian and STILL want gays/lesbians to have equal rights. ”

    AMEN!!!

    you can read my posts above – I went to both “events”. You know as I watched people outside on the first event, happily yelling ‘freedom of speech’ rants, and they were rants – they were not being nice and being supportive of other freedoms in the constitution (pursuit of happiness, equality, freedoms from being discriminated against) or the bible (love thy neighbor).

    There was a man watching and talking on the phone, giving someone else the lo-down and he was trying to tell me about the Christian view… and I told him, ‘I’m a Christian and my grandpa was a Methodist minister, and it hurts me that someone can be hateful to others that are born differently and that person can turn and call themselves Christians and better than the other person.’

    I guess he didn’t have a good answer for that as he looked at me and then turned his back on me (says alot doesn’t it?) and walked away.

  36. Rob says:

    I am completely uninterested in the “christian” beliefs of a woman who has cheated on her husband.

    Someone mentioned that Austin Peck is another big time conservative christian….

    So soap stars who cheat on their spouses with co-stars is acceptable, but I shouldnt legally be able to marry?!?!?

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    Michael (not Fairman) replied

    If Mr. Cathy had been choosing to show his “support for Biblical marriage” by contributing to a lobbying effort to return to the days of prison sentences and other heavy judicial penalties for adultery–which is surely a more direct threat to marriage, Biblical or otherwise–I wonder if Mrs. Reeves would have been so eager to jump at the chance to show her support and tweet so gleefully about it.

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  37. PalmGirl73 says:

    I applause and give thanks to Crystal Chappell for having a mature rational response to this situation. we should all hope that we would have as true a friend willing to reach out and get clarification and understanding, to be willing to stand up and say that’s not who my friend is or what she believes. Crystal handled this situation with class, respect and dignity for all involved. While I do believe M.R should come forward and clear the air, we all have a duty as friends to stand up for one another and stand up for whats right. Well thought out dialog and communication will open eyes and hearts much faster than name calling and negative behavior. Kudos and much love and respect Mrs. Chappell!

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  38. Gmbenet says:

    I think it was very nice of Crystal Chappell to take the time to reach out to Melissa Reeves for clarification about her Chick-fil-A tweet. What happened to Melissa in the aftermath of her tweet was nothing short of bullying by Greg Rikaart and his cohorts.

    I am not a supporter of gay rights, but I do greatly appreciate Crystal Chappell’s tolerance of persons who have views different from hers. And yes, the President of Chick-fil-A does have a right to free speech as do we all. The so-called “hate groups” that Chick-fil-A is alleged to support are organizations that believe and promote what the Bible teaches about marriage and family.

    I do not at all understand why anyone who believes and preaches or teaches what the Bible says about marriage, family, sex, etc. is considered a “hater”. The Bible says what it says, whether anyone believe in the Bible or no. Everyone is free to make his/her on choice on that. Why should persons who believe what the Bible says be called a “hater”? Going by that definition, every minister of the Gospel of Jesus Christ who preaches/teaches the Word of God pure and unadulterated is a “hater”. How ridiculous is that?

    If there were more supporters of gay rights like Crystal Chappell who demonstrate common sense as well as tolerance for others who do not share their views, there may not have even been a Chick-fil-A Appreciation Day. There would have been no need for it. But because of persons like Greg Rikaart and his cohorts, support for Chick-fil-A will continue to grow as an outward protest against such a lack of tolerance.

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  39. Paul says:

    Its nice of CC to jump to Reeves defense. She needs defending. Her comments implied her support of hate mongering and that she allies herself with their campaign of hate to remove civil liberties from LGBTQ persons. As a member of a show which is currently telling a story of acceptance and tolerance for people who are different, I find her comments contradictory to the values being put forth by Sony and NBC. I hold her responsible and accept no plea of ignorance. Chick-Fil-A has been in the news and of course, she knows that, that is why she showed up with her bible humping family to enjoy the hate-bred chicken. I think Days should hold her to her contract and have her character come out of the closet as a late in life lesbian who crusades for equal rights. Melissa Reeves may verywell have become the most despised woman on daytime.

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    Dee replied

    Paul, I agree with you regarding the show right now (DAYS). Let me embellish without hurt/prejudice and hypothetically: If I had made a mistake in speaking/terminology and was a known actress or a nobody then I should apologize and make my real thoughts known, immediately. Maybe the lack of a timely response and the response itself may be due to: fear of backlash; personal sexual issues; jealousy of CC’s success; someone in the background helping MR along. Far out thinking; if “Melanie” marries “Chad” would you not want your Mother at your wedding??? CC is a formidable contender to anyone and CC I have lived long enough to know good friends will disappoint you. You know that, too. Let’s move onto the Grove and Season four of Venice and accept lessons learned.

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  40. Teresa says:

    I don’t understand how anyone can’t see how Missy could have supported free speech. Suporting freedom of speech does not mean you agree with what has been said. I myself made a similar mistake. Because when I was supporting Chic fil a ‘s right to say what they felt, I had no clue that they were supporting hate groups so I can see how Missy didnt know that either. Missy Reeves is also a very religious person, so she believes in that. Doesn’t mean she hates people who don’t follow her religion. I believe in equal rights for gays. And I can say that because of freedom of speech!

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  41. TJ says:

    ChickFilA is a huge supporter of FamilyResearchCouncil who promote criminalization of homosexuality. What is really slimy is how celebrities and atheletes talk prejudice out of one side of their mouth, couching it in FreeSpeech and the Bible, while claiming not to offend anyone out of the other side of their mouth. That seems the slimyest bit, to put it out there then slither away as if no harm was intended.

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